Dewasa Itu Pilihan

Book Title: Dewasa Itu Pilihan
Author: Kiki Fardiansyah

By reading this book, I realize something. That having a vision for your life is SUPER IMPORTANT. Well, it’s not like I didn’t realize it before. I know that having a vision is important, but after all these years, I never took it seriously. And after read this book, I know that I MUST wrote my vision. Make some plan and target from it; and also make some backup plan, just in case my first plan doesn’t work out. And so on, and so for...

Well, sebenernya bikin VISI HIDUP itu langkah kedua dari delapan langkah yang dijabarin sama buku ini untuk lo bisa jadi manusia dewasa. Langkah pertama adalah MENGENAL DIRI, means lo mesti tau segala kelebihan kekuranga lo, potensi diri yang punya, tipe kepribadian lo, dsb. Hal ini penting supaya lo bisa efisien dan efektif dalam menentukan VISI HIDUP lo.

And it makes me think… gue tuh orang yang kayak gimana ya.. Well, I always enjoy things that come with the word ‘social’. I always enjoy when I do the design thing, even though I’m not a designer or student from design faculty, I graduated from business school, and I always wanted to have my own company. I like the feeling of being independent. I wanna be a great mom. I want, some day, be able to work from home. I want to be a full time mother, and part time worker. I ALWAYS dream about having my own social institution, like rumah pintar, for anak-anak jalanan in Jakarta.. I love cooking, even though I can’t cook. And it would be nice to have my own restaurant. And I love computer and internet which make my life easier. I wish I can make some money from here… And based on those characters, what kind of VISION should I make?

The book stated that we can get some advantages by having a life vision. Pertama, dengan memiliki visi, pekerjaan yang kita lakukan akan terasa menyenangkan. Kedua, akan ada energy tersendiri yang kita dapat dalam melakukan pekerjaan. Ketiga, visi bisa meramalkan masa depan kita. You are what you dream gitu loh ;-)

Well, I realize that the only reason I live for is God, yes, Him, Allah SWT. Somewhere in 2005, I made promise to Him that I will give my all just for Allah. I’m not a saint, nor an angel. I’m just me, His slave, who want to give my best just for Him. Overall, this is my general vision of life.

From the career point of view, hmm, I know that I need to be rich. I think it’s nice to be an entrepreneur. I’d love to have a business in keakhwatan area, like saloon, boutique, be-a-great-mother-consultant, and many more! *gehehe* I should earn more and more money, and be as rich as possible kind of person. I should be rich because at the end, I will use the money to make my own social institution which concern in children education.

With the entire material thing, I will still put family as my first priority. My inspirations in becoming a great mom are KIMORA LEE SIMONS, mbak ASTRI in Keluarga Nugraha, Mbak MAYA in Smritacharita, Juno’s PARENTS in Juno Movie, and Aya’s mother in One Litre of Tears. I’m hoping my children will become a tough human being. TOUGH means they surely know by their heart what they lived for, and don’t get distracted easily by their friends.

So, gimana caranya biar visi dan tujuan hidup kamu bisa terwujud? Di buku juga dijelasin beberapa langkah yang bisa dilakukan; mulai dari meluangkan waktu untuk merenungkan visi yang paling ‘lo banget’, bikin target (jangka pendek, jangka menengah, jangka panjang, target rutin), and ACT! There is a say by Lao Tse: perjalanan ribuan mil dimulai dengan langkah pertama. And believe me, the first step is not an easy one. ;-)

Ok, ACT. So what should I do now? I think for today I will be a dedicated employee and earn money as a start for my incoming businesses.

Ya ampuunn, baru ngebahas langkah kedua yaa?

Oke, let’s make it more simple. The third step is time management. Kayaknya udah cukup jelas ya kenapa hal ini penting. Kalo di bukunya sih bakal ditekanin lagi kenapa ngatur waktu itu penting, dan bakal dijelasih juga tips-tips time management. The forth step is menjalin dan memelihara pergaulan. Di bab ini bakal dijelasin tanda2 pergaulan yang sehat, cara berbicara yang baik, sampe tips mendengarkan empatik. Great chapter. The fifth step is about how to face a conflict in an adult way (menghadapi konflik secara dewasa gitu maksudnya, ganti. Hehe). Baca bab ini biking gw déjà vu, soalnya rasanya dulu waktu kuliah juga pernah di ajarin di mata kuliah people management. Mulai dari win-win solution as the solution, sikap asertif ketika menghadapi konflik, dan negosiasi. The last three steps are: mengasah kreatifitas, mengasah kecerdasan emosi, dan mengasah kecerdasan spiritual. Penjelasannya panjaaang, he. Mending baca sendiri aja bukunya soalnya disana juga bakal banyak cerita2 gitu sebagai contoh.

As the conclusion, you better read this book on your own. But as the title said: being an adult is a choice. Life itself is a matter of choices. So, it’s your choice whether you want to move on and face the world or live in dreams and stay at your comfort zone.